Drink from your own cistern,
flowing water from your own well.
~Proverbs 5:15 (NRSV).
Purity is realistically our biggest personal
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threat to the life of holiness. We are by nature impure. Once we’re cleansed by the blood of Jesus, it’s the continuously intermittent dilution of our newfound purity acquired in his name by the New Covenant written in his blood. We cannot remove the sin entirely from the sinner.
Proverbs chapter 5 is one constant exhortation to ward against the “loose woman,” or appositely for females, the deceptively charismatic man. The “lips” of both “drip honey” and there’s a dichotomy to experience here. Ironically, they’re as “bitter as wormwood” (verses 3-4) as an outcome of our interaction with them.
The Gender Inclusiveness of the ‘Sex Trade’
Although Proverbs 5 is written in a gender exclusive way, it’s not hard to recognise the reverse, allowing welcome inclusivity. It matters little whether men are the victims of trickery or the perpetrators, because they’re innately driven, as a generalisation.
It’s easy to see that if one gender is intrinsically motivated by something, in this case sex, the other gender’s compulsion to satisfy it will create supply and demand for both genders. Neither men nor woman can extricate themselves from this insidious tension. It’s how we, by our natures, work.
The Deceit Behind the Loose Woman or Deceptively Charismatic Man
Anyone who acts deceptively for the ends of sex is generally playing a power game, and one bent on evil.
And this brings about more urgent warnings from the parent to the adolescent child. If the child’s given to any sense of naivety there is the distinct chance they’ll fall for the trap, such is the flightiness and allure of the deceit. Even the shrewdest of people need to be on high guard.
The ‘Waters’ of Love
The passage in verses 15-18 provides rich imagery for the young man who’s aware of the nature of his orgasm-the ejaculation. “Should [his] springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets?” (Verse 16) It’s a rhetorical question; the allusion is for those seminal fluids not to be shared beyond appropriate borders. Any man doing this risks death.
His “fountain” (verse 18) is to be shared only with his wife. She alone should be privy to it; and hers only to him.
Lust is also in sight (verse 20) and we should know that God sees all (verse 21).
Death Awaits Those Going into Sexual Sin
Over the course of this and the next two chapters – and also sprinkled throughout the whole book of Proverbs – there is a high hearing and coarse admonition for those who stray sexually.
This surely is tantamount to the worst of folly. Yet still there are those risking life and years of good investment in Wisdom for a fling and a fleeting jettison of cares.